BY ERICA KARFONTA
My life has been full of unfortunate circumstances, but I’ve managed to embrace them (warts and all) as I get older. So I’ve been asked to speak on the subject of AUTHENTICITY.
AUTHENTICITY – WHAT IS IT?
Definition – “True to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.” And I would add…owning one’s own story including the wins and losses and the desires and desperations. How trusting myself and owning my story flames my passion and fuels my purpose and that it may persuade you to do the same.
If you want to be in a place of influence in your chosen profession and still have any bit of joy, you must do three things:
- Trust yourself
- Own your story
- Show up with your whole self
Brene Brown, author, researcher says having the courage to trust yourself, own your story, and show up with your whole self is being compassionate to yourself, which is needed if you truly can be compassionate to and connect with others.
Since the holiday season is coming, and I’m here with a group of professional women, I could probably assume that you are already experts on what kind of commitments and obligations are important.
We have real commitments to creating a better world. To our God-given self: Full actualization and maturation.
To the mission of your organization: Your best work needs to get done so your full self-needs to show up. To the team: Those counting on you and looking to someone they can trust and respect and follow. To humanity: Mankind needs more healers and bridge builders showing a better way of leading and healing this world. Today, I want to celebrate the joys you can realize for yourself in these commitments.
Below are THREE JOYS I get from practicing being AUTHENTIC.
- Simplicity: Knowing myself
- Personal Power: Believing in myself
- Serving: Showing up fully in my profession
I challenge you to realize these joys by taking the next steps:
Knowing Thyself – create some space in your life where you can retreat and write things down. Start with what you desire and are desperate for (ideally and realistically). Usually, the truth is found in one or two words.
Personal Power – Fear of failure is the number one reason why people become imposters. Your physical state influences this fear more than you know. Get in shape! Remember who you are and who you are not.
Serve – Practice being your whole self. Start small. Volunteer on small projects where failure is likely. Make it an objective to pay attention to your reactions to the risk of failure and be intentional about showing up anyway (warts and all). Speak your mind and trust yourself. You’ll grow and others will benefit from you bringing your whole self.
Erica Karfonta, Director for Health, Housing, and Nutrition Services for OLHSA
Eleni Kelakos – Coaching – The Eleni Group – Ann Arbor – Book: Touch the Sky!
Brene Brown – TED TALK on Vulnerability
SARK – Succulent Wild Woman
Dr. Dan Allender – Leading with A Limp (lead with power because of our weaknesses).
Amy Cuddy – Presence
Much thanks, Erica, for sharing your story and your mission to live authentically in all aspects of your life. ~ Professional Women’s Club of Michigan luncheon at Oak Pointe Country Club on November 9, 2016.